I remember Thanksgiving at Grandma Rose's house. Every year the family would converge for an all day feast and many solicited and unsolicited reports of family life from the past year.

Like many of you, I’m sure you have a lot of fond memories of when you were younger at your family's Thanksgiving. But let me remind you of one that I think is universal for a lot of us growing up! 

Enter…"the kid's table!”  Yes, if your's was like mine, it was a square card table, sometimes two shoved together, with metal folding chairs arranged on every side.  The dignitaries were my cousins and friends of my cousins, who always seemed to crash the Thanksgiving festivities.  Many discussions were had around that square such as:

What are you getting for Christmas?

Do you want to go see a movie after we get done eating?

How can we get the adults to stop talking so that it shortens the day?

I’m not sure we ever adequately solved the last question!

In reality, we all wanted to move to the adult table. After all, that represented the ultimate seat of power or at least what I know now as the perceived seat of power. Who could resist an opportunity to be a major player in the current events of our society? As a kid isn’t that where everything was vetted out, discussed and then voted on….THE ADULT TABLE!

I sit at the adult table now. Most of the conversation is pleasant and easy. But I find myself looking back to those days when the questions and answers were so much simpler.  I suppose most of us find ourselves always looking ahead.

Oh if I could just get to that table of influence there I would be complete.  If I could get a chair with that group I would be in!

The Word of God is so clear. See Luke 18:17,

“Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”

Paul makes a profound statement in Philippians 4:11,

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.

I think this holiday season, I’m going to spend a little more time at the kids table, how about you?


Doug Everaard is a husband, dad, and die hard OU. He loves watching movies and hanging with youth pastors and their families. Doug is the District Youth Director for Oklahoma Youth Ministries.

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