I.            Do it for the right motives

A.      A hungry ego

1. Getting attention

2. Getting to be a leader

3. It’s easy to abuse this, take advantage of students

4. If you need people you can’t lead people

B.      Extended adolescence

1. Don’t want to grow up

2. Don’t want to go to the adult service

      II.            Always take the high road

A.      Don’t stoop to their level

1. Madison and me fighting

2. Don’t lie, manipulate, try to pull strings behind the scenes

B.      Be the adult

C.      Truth/honesty always wins

    III.            Always Avoid The Edge

A.      Students will jump off

1. What one generation practices, the next will condone

2. Generational compromise

a)      2 Chron. 26:19 – Uzziah got hurt in the temple

b)      2 Chron. 27:2 – His son Jotham never entered the temple

c)       2 Chron. 28:24 – His son Ahaz shut the doors to the temple

d)      2 Chron. 29:3 – His son Hezekiah opened the doors to the temple

B.      Students are looking for an excuse

1. Don’t be their excuse

2. Live above reproach – 8 times in the NT

3. Phil. 2:15 that you may prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world

    IV.            Prioritize the Family

A.      If we lose our family, we’ve lost everything

1. 3 John 4 – I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth.

2. They are our real youth group

B.      Family is what will give us credit in the future

1. We must show our students how family should/can be done

2. The joy of youth ministry is breaking the curse

C.      Don’t treat their parents as an enemy

1. We are partners with the parents to help their students

2. Mal. 4:6 – And He will restore the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the land with a curse.

      V.            Never Sacrifice Truth For Love Or Love For Truth

A.      Sacrifice truth for love

1. Being their friend and not their leader

2. Our tendency is to over love and under truth

B.      Sacrifice love for truth

1. Policy becomes more important than people

2. Rules without relationship leads to rebellion

    VI.            Pray Things Done

A.      Prayer changes things

1. Believe in the supernatural

2. Students are looking for the supernatural

3. Matt. 17:21 – But this kind does not go out expect by prayer and fasting

  VII.            Teach Students To Feed Themselves

A.      It’s part of growing up – learning how to eat, feed yourself

1. Bill Hybels confessions – If you simply want a crowd, the “seeker sensitive” model produces results. If you want solid, sincere, mature followers of Christ, it’s a bust. We made a mistake. What we should have done when people crossed the line of faith and become Christians, we should have started telling people and teaching people that they have to take responsibility to become ‘self feeders’. We should have gotten people, taught people, how to read their Bible between services, how to do the spiritual practices much more aggressively on their own.

2. Jesus asked questions – He didn’t give ansers

VIII.            Be An Example

A.      Lead by example

1. You can be a rancher or a shepherd

2. Dwight D. Eisenhower kept a piece of string on his desk to illustrate leadership

a)      I Model – I do it

b)      I Mentor – I do it and you are with me

c)       I Monitor – You do it and I am with you

d)      I Motivate – You do it

e)      I Multiply – You do it and someone is with you

    IX.            Be Loyal

A.      If you can’t support the leader get out

1. You have a relationship with the student because of the pastor

2. Being the pastor is a different role because you are the authority

3. Stand your ground when students complain

4. Bring out the positives

      X.            Spread the Wealth

A.      We are a team

1. It’s not a competition to see who is the most popular sponsor

a)      Carmello Anthony, Denver Nuggets, February 25, 2005, coach George Karl sat him out in the last couple of minutes of a tight game against the Memphis Grizzlies. The game ended tied and Carmelllo did not play in during the overtime session. The Nuggets eventually won 97-94 but Anthony left in a huff when teammates tried to celebrate with him.

b)      March 28, 1990 Michael Jordan scored 69 points against the Cleveland Cavaliers and rookie Stacy King scored only 2 points. After the game a reported found Stacy King sitting by himself in the locker romm and asked him how he felt to know that he only scored 2 points on a night that Michael Jordan had scored 69. He said, “This is the night I will always remember when Michael and I teamed up to score 71 points.” That night the Bulls were tied at the end of regulation and went on to win in overtime by a score of 117-114.

c)       “I don’t want your eleven best players, I want your best eleven” – Knute Rockney

2. Defer praise

3. When one wins, we all win.

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Rob and Sherri worked with students as youth pastors and District Youth Directors for over 20 years.  Presently they serve as Assistant Pastors at The Bridge in Mustang, Oklahoma.  He has spoken extensively in services, revivals, retreats, camps, crusades, missions outreaches and public school assemblies. Rob’s preaching takes the Bible and applies it, in a practical way, to everyday life.  By lacing Biblical principles with humor he makes Christianity come alive to young and old alike.  Rob and Sherri have two children, Mac and Madison. You can find more of Rob's resources including sermon notes, video and more on his website

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